If you were not raised in the United States, you probably had the same question at least when first introduced to it: what do you mean by DATING? That moment when it has been more than three dates of movies and dinner, when you obviously like each other’s company but hey, you are just DATING.
On our very first blog post we touched the topic given our unanimous confusion. Thanks to my travels and social interaction with foreigners, soon I realized that not understanding the idea of dating, which I thought was so alienated to the Mexican culture, was in fact shared by the French, the Spaniards and most Latinos.
I do NOT condone dating.
Seriously, what the f*ck is dating? According to the Merriam-Webster Thesaurus, dating is the series of social engagements shared by a couple looking to get married (so intense!) while the urban dictionary has some hysterical definitions but one that is a little closer to my idea of dating: the action of doing any sort of various activities to gain acquaintance with someone romantically.
So (I sigh) dating has a purpose and that is becoming a couple…or so it was. But our generation is different. In fact, the real purpose of dating is commonly the last outcome desired. I keep falling in the same trap, thinking that a guy who wants to date me will eventually ask me to be his girlfriend (why would he spend all that energy in talking to me and taking me out anyways) right?!… WRONG. Apparently, a guy will date you for as long as he can continue to date you -and have fun, support, sex, breakfast and all the good things that being intimate with someone can bring- without ever committing. Can’t blame them, it sounds legit.
My problem with dating is none of the above BUT that modern dating lacks romanticism. What I find difficult and mediocre is the need to restrict my feelings, you know, playing it cool and chill. What a terrible waste of time and good intentions going date after date resisting the urge to fall in love.
But what you allow will continue…and because there is only one life and we must enjoy it, I have no choice but to keep dating.
Paloma (hopeless romantic)